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Deal With Sexless Marriage Problem
Although marital experts define a sexless marriage
as having sex less than 10 times a year, the fact is that we just cannot
quantify sex. How much sex you want varies from person to person and even from
age to age.
For a couple in their fifties and sixties,
having intimate sex only once a month may be more than enough. But for a young
couple in their twenties and thirties, having sex only once a month could be a
serious marital problem. For some, a sexless marriage can be such a serious
marriage problem that can lead to a trip to a divorce lawyer's office.
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If you are in a sexless marriage and are
rather unhappy because about it, just don't worry too much because your
situation can be remedied but it is still serious cause for concern. If you
are thinking about getting a divorce because of your sexless marriage, that is
also natural but may not be necessary.
In
order to really decide what to do in your situation, some thinking needs to be
done so that you can feel good about whatever decision is going to be
regardless if you stay married or get a divorce. Being a victim of a sexless
marriage can have you feeling a wide range of emotions ranging from
loneliness, listlessness, anger, frustration, confusion, inadequate sexual
confidence, etc. These emotions come about for various reasons and you can get
over them if you just figure out why you are in a sexless marriage.
You
see, to find a solution for the sexless marriage, you will need to get to the
root of the marriage problem and uncover the real reasons why you and your
spouse are no longer actively having sex. This of course will take some time
to discover. There are of course many reasons on why blissful marriages can
turn out this way and the followings are just some examples of the causation
of sexless marriages and suggested solutions to fix the marital problem.
a) We both work too much -
Both of you may be very ambitious in your career and may be working extremely
hard and there just never seems to be enough time to get intimate with each
other. This is true because a lot of couples are married but just live
together like roommates because they have terribly time consuming careers like
yours.
So good time management is the
essence of solution
to a sexless marriage of this nature. Both of you may even need to change
your jobs if it calls for, so as to put some intimacy into your marriage and
save it from ruin.
b) Husband work while wife
look after children - You may be working very hard at your career and your
wife stays home to raise the children, which is just as equally as hard as any
career! If you are the spouse with the career and may need to work after
office hours, to travel frequently, or to attend offical functions and at the
same time, your wife who stays home raising the children may not have any
other outlet for relaxation away from the home.
This
may spark many domestic tensions and quarrels for the lonely spouse who stays
home may be yelling, "You are never home for me. Who do you think you are
married to, me or your work?". You with the career may retort angrily, "Why do
you think I work so hard for? I do it for you and the kids. So why are you
yelling at me, you ungrateful bitch!"
Again
this situation calls for time management or you may have to switch career to
one that is less demanding of your time so that you can be with your spouse
more often and give her some leeway to relax away from home. Remember, she is
your wife and not a convict to be sentenced to a jail called home.
c) There
is no spark left in the marriage - This is a common sexless marriage
situation and it can be caused by many factors such as emotional scars, bad
experiences, boredom, indifference etc. In this sexless marriage situation,
there is deep cause for concern from both parties because both of you are not
happy sexually and yet don't really know why it ended up like this. Sometimes
there is this feeling of being taken for granted by each other.
In this situation, both of you
need to realize that sex is a basic human need and should take priority over
other things at the appropriate time. It will take some work to get out of
this type of sexless marriage, but it can be done. Both of you need to sit
down and figure out why your marital love spark is gone. If you and your
spouse really want to rekindle the sparks, you can, but you both need to take
equal responsibility for rectifying your marriage problem.
Whatever
type of sexless marriage you are now in, remember that the problem can be
fixed, if both of you want to and take action to do it. If you are to the
point of thinking about getting a divorce because of your sexless marriage,
take the time to sit down and figure out how it got to be the way it is now.
Is a divorce really necessary? Is it the only solution?
If
you and your spouse have tried to fix the sexless marriage together and
failed, then go to a good marriage counselor for professional help. Getting a
divorce is not yet an option and it should only be the last option. Last must
not least, if you really want to fix your sexless marriage successfully, then
click Save Your
Sexless Marriage Now!
Best
Wishes
The Love Guru
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