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Deal With Sexless Marriage Problem
Although marital experts define a sexless marriage
as having sex less than 10 times a year, the fact is that we just cannot
quantify sex. How much sex you want varies from person to person and even from
age to age.
For a couple in their fifties and sixties,
having intimate sex only once a month may be more than enough. But for a young
couple in their twenties and thirties, having sex only once a month could be a
serious marital problem. For some, a sexless marriage can be such a serious
marriage problem that can lead to a trip to a divorce lawyer's office.
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If you are in a sexless marriage and are rather
unhappy because about it, just don't worry too much because your situation can
be remedied but it is still serious cause for concern.
If you are thinking about getting a divorce
because of your sexless marriage, that is also natural but may not be
necessary.
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In
order to really decide what to do in your situation, some thinking needs to be
done so that you can feel good about whatever decision is going to be
regardless if you stay married or get a divorce.
Being a victim of a sexless marriage can
have you feeling a wide range of emotions ranging from loneliness,
listlessness, anger, frustration, confusion, inadequate sexual confidence,
etc. These emotions come about for various reasons and you can get over them
if you just figure out why you are in a sexless marriage.
You see, to find a solution for the
sexless marriage, you will need to get to the root of the marriage problem and
uncover the real reasons why you and your spouse are no longer actively having
sex. This of course will take some time to discover.
There are of course many reasons on why
blissful marriages can turn out this way and the followings are just some
examples of the causation of sexless marriages and suggested solutions to fix
the marital problem.
a) We both work too much -
Both of you may be very ambitious in your career and may be working extremely
hard and there just never seems to be enough time to get intimate with each
other. This is true because a lot of couples are married but just live
together like roommates because they have terribly time consuming careers like
yours.
So good time management is the essence of solution
to a sexless marriage of this nature. Both of you may even need to change
your jobs if it calls for, so as to put some intimacy into your marriage and
save it from ruin.
b) Husband work while wife
look after children - You may be working very hard at your career and your
wife stays home to raise the children, which is just as equally as hard as any
career! If you are the spouse with the career and may need to work after
office hours, to travel frequently, or to attend offical functions and at the
same time, your wife who stays home raising the children may not have any
other outlet for relaxation away from the home.
This may spark many domestic tensions
and quarrels for the lonely spouse who stays home may be yelling, "You are
never home for me. Who do you think you are married to, me or your work?". You
with the career may retort angrily, "Why do you think I work so hard for? I do
it for you and the kids. So why are you yelling at me, you ungrateful bitch!"
Again this situation calls for time
management or you may have to switch career to one that is less demanding of
your time so that you can be with your spouse more often and give her some
leeway to relax away from home. Remember, she is your wife and not a convict
to be sentenced to a jail called home.
c) There
is no spark left in the marriage - This is a common sexless marriage
situation and it can be caused by many factors such as emotional scars, bad
experiences, boredom, indifference etc. In this sexless marriage situation,
there is deep cause for concern from both parties because both of you are not
happy sexually and yet don't really know why it ended up like this. Sometimes
there is this feeling of being taken for granted by each other.
In this situation, both of you need to
realize that sex is a basic human need and should take priority over other
things at the appropriate time. It will take some work to get out of this type
of sexless marriage, but it can be done.
Both of you need to sit down and figure out
why your marital love spark is gone. If you and your spouse really want to
rekindle the sparks, you can, but you both need to take equal responsibility
for rectifying your marriage problem.
Whatever type of sexless marriage you
are now in, remember that the problem can be fixed, if both of you want to and
take action to do it. If you are to the point of thinking about getting a
divorce because of your sexless marriage, take the time to sit down and figure
out how it got to be the way it is now. Is a divorce really necessary? Is it
the only solution?
If you and your spouse have tried to
fix the sexless marriage together and failed, then go to a good marriage
counselor for professional help. Getting a divorce is not yet an option and it
should only be the last option. Last must not least, if you really want to fix
your sexless marriage successfully, then click Save
Your Sexless Marriage Now!
Best
Wishes
The Love Guru
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