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Break Up|Divorce
Marriage Counseling To Stop Divorce
It is common for couples to rub the wrong way and
quarrel now and then. However, when the word "let's divorce" is angrily spat
out by either party, it could be merely out of anger or spat.
If you cherish your family and kids, and
still love your partner no matter how angry or frustrated you are, then it is
time to save your marriage to stop the downward spiral which may lead to an
ugly divorce and a broken family. This is the time when both of you need to go
for a marriage counseling therapy.
Marriage counseling is the last thing
couples want to go through. But if it can save your marriage, then it is well
worth it. The question is how to find a good marriage counselor? Well, here
are some guidelines.
How
To Save My Marriage Now!
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Marriage
counseling is the last thing couples want to go through. But if it can save
your marriage, then it is well worth it. The question is how to find a good
marriage counselor? Well, here are some guidelines.
Firstly, it is important to find a marriage
counselor whom both of you like and feel comfortable with. After you called or
interviewed the counselor, ask yourself these questions:-
a) Does the marriage counselor seem
interested in you? Use your intuition to feel his/her level of empathy.
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b) Does he/her ask you questions
to get enough significant information about your marriage?
You see, a good marriage couselor
will create an environment where both of you and the therapist can feel safe
and comfortable to discuss any issues no matter how ugly and embarrassing
these issues are.
Then you need to check on the
experience and track record of the marriage counselor. Ask to see his/her
training certifications and success rate in helping couples to successfully to
save their marriages.
Ask the counselor to provide names of
clients that have succesfully saved their marriages and those who failed and
call these referrals to ascertain the professionalism of your prospective
counselor. Do not be shy about this because if the counseling fails, you will
be looking starkly at the prospect of an ugly impending divorce.
As such, find a counselor who has been in
practice for several years and who counsels at least seven or even eight
couples per week and who can show you that he/she has specialized training.
It is crucial to find a counselor who is
truly a couple's therapist and not merely a counselor was trained to work with
individuals who happens to see couples. This is because there is a risk that
the therapist will treat individual unhappiness and not effectively address
the couple's specific issues.
This may be common sense, but in the
fit of an emotional trauma and anger may be overlooked. Do find a counselor
who is affordable and geographically convenient. Otherwise, either you or your
spouse may come up with excuses like ""we can't afford it" or "it is to much
of a hassle" to derail the progress
you can make to save your marriage.
Now, make sure your therapist
believes in the institution of marriage. You may not know this, but some
marriage counselors actually may tell you that divorce is the best option and
helps you to facilitate divorce proceedings such as introducing you to divorce
lawyers and then counsel you on the emotional traumas of a divorce. These are
divorce counselors, where he/she helps the couple to separate rather than stay
together.
So if facilitating a divorce is not
your objective and barring incidents like repeated illicit affairs, drug or
alcohol abuse and or domestic violence etc, then it is certainly prudent to
make sure that you see a marriage counselor who believes in the institution of
marriage.
If you or your spouse have a special
problem, then go to a specialist in that field instead of a general
practitioner marriage counselor. Such issues could be drug or alcohol abuse,
sex addiction or domestic violence just to name some examples.
Thus the counselor that you choose must be
skilled in addressing these issues. Many counselors often choose a niche that
they are passionate about and thus you can benefit from their additional
knowledge and training in those specific areas.
So if you really want to save your
marriage and believes that divorcing your spouse is the last option, then
finding a good marriage counselor and going for marriage counseling could
indeed save your marriage.
One such expert in saving marriages and
stopping divorce I know of is Dr Lee Baucom Ph.D. He has saved thousands of
marriages in more than two decades and his work is still helping couples all
over the world to stop divorces and it can also help you. To see what Dr
Baucom has to say concerning your marital struggles, click How
To Save My Marriage Now!
Best
Wishes
The
Love Guru
Counseling
Center of Dallas- Psychotherapy and
Counseling by DFW area Psychotherapist Dr. John B. Evans.
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