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Break Up|Divorce
How Can I Save My Marriage?
Is your marriage on the rocks? Are you having a
troubled and unhappy marriage and is thinking about having a divorce? Is there
any way to save your marriage and stop your/her divorce lawyers from going
ahead with divorce legal proceedings?
If you think that your matrimony home is on
the verge of collapse and you can do nothing about it, I am here to tell you
that all is not lost yet and you can still save your marriage.
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In almost, if not all the developed countries,
divorce rates are increasing year on year. In the United States alone, almost
one million marriages ended up in divorce annually and the number is
increasing.
Divorce lawyers are having a field day and
laughing all the way to their banks at your expense. What has gone wrong to
such happy unions that ended up so terribly wrong? What about your own
marriage, what went wrong?
The next question to ask is how many of
these marriages could be saved, including yours?
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Unfortunately, even The Love Guru is
unable to give you the answer. However, I know that if both parties are
willing to sit down and do something about it with good counselling and
information and to make sincere efforts to save the marriage, it can be done.
I have seen it happened countless times with my clients who are willing to
make effort to stop divorce and make up.
However, what I know for sure is that
if your marriage is in trouble and you are doing nothing or are unwilling to
do anyting to save it, the outcome of a divorce or separation is a guaranteed
end result. If you or better yet, both of you do something, there is a much
better chance that your marriage will be saved.
How To Stop Divorce
Here are some save marriage tips which many of my clients found to be
effective in saving their relationship with their spouses.
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Stop Blaming - If you carry on the blame
game and vice versa, both of you will end up without a spouse. Marriage is a
give and take union. It is not a I take you give game. There is no point in
standing firm to your lofty principle of 50-50. Sometimes you have to give 75
and take 25 and sometimes its your turn to take 75 and give 25, vice versa.
Stop blaming yourself too. Because if
everyone is to start blaming their partners or themselves the marriages get
frozen into a pattern of blame that obstinately obstructs any prospect of
progress. It is much easier to point the finger and insist that "It's your
fault" or "It's my fault". By doing that, is it going to solve anything?
Unfortunately, all blaming does is to
prevent any shift of position change. Remember this, blame is the fuel that
feeds the flame of divorce.
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Take Charge - Take charge of the situation
and decide that you and your spouse can do things to save your marriage if
both of you take the effort to. Nothing is going to change if no one initiates
any changes and both of you will have to take charge to turn the situation
around if you really want to save your marriage.
Deep
down inside both of you, you do know what exactly you ought to do in order to save
your marriage and stop divorce. If you don't think you know, it is because
you don't want to know and you are being blinded by being obstinate or angry
and sticking to your guns.
All these negative feelings if allowed to
simmer will certainly destroy your marriage. Once both of you start to take
charge, you will know what action to take to save your nuptial union.
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Get Help From Experts - Do not listen to
your friends. Although many friends and relatives may give advise out of good
intention, the advise may not be right for you or worse, worsen your situation
further, simply because they are not experts.
Think about it this way, many people
will go to their divorced friends thinking that these friends has had the
experienced of going through a divorce, so they should be in a better position
to help.
That is a load of BS. If they are able to
help, then they would have saved their own marriages in the first place and
would not have hade their own marriages ended in divorces, right? So it is the
syndrome of the blind leading the blind!
In other words, they can only teach you how
to get divorced and may even gleefully introduce you to their divorce lawyers
so that your road to a broken family is ascertained. That is not what you
want, isn't it?
So get help from marriage counselors
and experts who are in much better position to help you. One of these experts
that comes to mind is immediately is Dr Lee Baucom who have in the last 20
years saved thousands of marriages and is still happily married to the same
woman he married more than 2 decades ago.
If you want to know the secret to a happy
marriage, then click How
To Save Your Marriage And Stop Divorce Now.
Wishing
you an everlasting blissful marriage.
The
Love Guru
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